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Don't let shortcomings in your mate be a short stop for your patience.


James I: 4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.


Your patience with God and your husband depends on the faith you have in them. James is saying in verse's 2-4:


James 1:2-4

 2 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;

3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.


When trials come to test us, we need to call on faith and when we do, faith will employ patience.  They are twins and always work together.  Patience will build your confidence in God and your husband.  To be patient is to remain consistently the same in your faith.  Like if you are waiting for something; just stand there until you get what you are waiting for.


Heb. 10:35-36

35 Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward. 

36 For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.


Patience is that part of the fruit of the Spirit that makes it possible for us to get along with one another.  You see we are all difficult and different people; no two are alike.  But patience enables us to dwell together in peace.  You need to stop searching for faults in your mate, and start overlooking faults.  What you see can affect your heart, and your heart will affect your actions towards your mate.


Lam. 3:51 Mine eye affecteth mine heart because of all the daughters of my city.


Even God who is perfect overlooked our faults so he could in mercy and righteousness meet our great need of salvation.  So we must allow love to accomplish its marvelous work through us.  By overlooking our mates little shortcomings it gives us single sight to zero in on all the wonderful things and talents he possesses.  Don't waste time looking at what your mate is short of.  But focus on all the many strong and wonderful things about him that does not need a magnifying glass to see.






Look out for tissue paper feelings.  Act like the strong adult you are.  Don't allow your feelings to be so easily bruised.  Remember it is not uncommon for easy bleeders to keep a sore.  If one must choose the words they say to you, in fear of your tender fragile feelings; they might just choose not to talk with you at all.  In a strong marriage husbands and wives must have tough hides and round shoulders.  The tough hide is to keep every little thing from penetrating love's wall of protection around your relationship.  This will prevent those little sharp words and answers that were not intended to hurt, from sticking and lingering long after they are spoken.  They just fall right off.  And the round shoulders won’t allow you to carry around any chips of anger, hurt feelings and revenge.  They will just fall to the ground where they need to be under your feet.  This is where everything needs to be that is not helpful to your marriage.


Eph. 4:26-27

26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 

27 Neither give place to the devil.






Wives, be your husband's defender and not his accuser.  That is his enemies and Satan's job, don't you help them.


Rev. 12:10 And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night.


Satan is accusing believers daily before God of serving him just for personal advantages.


Job 1:6-11

6 Now there was a day when the sons of God came to present themselves before the Lord and Satan came also among them. 

7 And the Lord said unto Satan, Whence comest thou: Then Satan answered the Lord, and said, From going to and fro in the earth, and from walking up and down in it. 

8 And the Lord said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that there is none like him in the earth, a perfect and an upright man, one that feareth God, and escheweth evil? 

9 Then Satan answered the Lord, and said, Doth Job fear God for nought? 

10 Hast not thou made an hedge about him, and about his house, and about all that he hath on every side?  thou hast blessed the work of his hands, and his substance is increased in the land. 

11 But put forth thine hand now, and touch all that he hath, and he will curse thee to thy face. 


God, who knew Job better than anyone else, spoke up for him.  You know your man better than anyone but God, so you must always speak up for him when it is necessary.  Instead of being the blame assigner; be a sharer.  Remember you and your husband are in this marriage, this love, the ups and downs together.  Every win is our win, and so is every loss.  If you are taking a trip in your car, and your husband makes a wrong turn you are both lost, and you were right there beside him when he made that wrong turn.  Well marriage is the same way.  No one has a finger free to point out blame, when both of you have your hands on the job of building a lasting relationship.  You are partners in all things, all the time.  If there is ever a problem involving others and you know your husband is at fault; pray about it first, ask God to give you special favor to discuss the matter with your husband when you two are alone, not in the presence of others.  This will allow him to go and make things right with those whom he had angered.  This is a much better way than you shaming him in public and causing him to resent your interference.  You've given him a chance to be the big person you know him to be, and he will appreciate you for your wisdom, respect, trust and discretion.  He will call you virtuous.


Prov. 31:10-12

10 Who can find a virtuous woman?  for her price is far above rubies. 

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.


 Be Blessed until next time.

Fred Johnson



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